Narcissus died by drowning when he fell into the waters where he admired his reflection, with which he fell madly in love… and so madly!
It is clear that this way of being does not bring anything good with it.Neither for the narcissistic people themselves, nor for those who have to live with them.
Do you need a little help to identify them? We tell you what they are like.
Narcissistic people: 10 traits to help you recognize them
Here we show you the characteristics of this type of individuals who, if they do not kiss themselves, it is because they do not get there:
1. They are very perfectionist
They always want to be the best in everything. Beyond cultivating excellence, narcissistic people become incessant seekers of perfection.
It is not about improving that which they believe will bring them personal growth, but rather about focus in a truly obsessive way on surpassing themselves and others..
2. They believe they are always right
When expressing their ideas they are usually quite forceful, but the particularity in this sense is not that they can defend their arguments in an assertive way, but above all they believe they are always right without any other possibility in this regard.
For narcissistic people to be in possession of the absolute truth is a habitual (albeit erroneous) belief that is (even if erroneous) almost impossible to change.
3. Many conquests that do not last
This type of person has a natural ability for seduction.They are charming in the beginning of the relationships they establish, which makes it easier for them to have multiple conquests in their lives.
The fact that they display their charms before those whom they intend to seduce pursues a goal; to cajole them to ensure that they feed their ego with flattery and attention, not because they really value these people.
However, they do not get that this type of idylls are sustained for long; on the one hand because for narcissistic people, as we mentioned before, their conquests are nothing more than a mirror that they expect to return an idealized image of themselves (something more typical of early (something more typical of the beginnings of any relationship), and therefore they do not care about the welfare of these people. Thus, little by little, the relationship is spoiled.
And on the other hand because, sooner or later, the seduced people discover the true nature of the narcissist and, unless they are people with very low self-esteem, they end up breaking off the relationship.
4. They do not accept criticism
For this kind of individuals, who believe themselves to be in possession of the absolute truth, there is no possibility of being wrong, neither in their points of view nor in their way of acting; they feel they are some kind of “divine beings” and, therefore, above the rest.
So, what happens when someone makes some kind of comment about their way of being or acting? Well, they take it quite badly, become defensive and react aggressively, some of them even in a disproportionate and violent way. And, to top it off, they are incapable of apologizing after what has happened.
What is behind this kind of reaction? A great personal insecurity that makes them feel threatened.
5. Impeccable image
In the age of social networks in which the image occupies a leading role for many, it is easy to discover at a glance the traits of narcissistic people in many of its users.
They tend to invest a lot of time in getting the perfect selfie, behind which there are partners or friends of infinite patience willing to assume eternal photo sessions and subsequent retouching.
Obviously, much of their time has to do with their dedication to the cult of the body and the care of their external image; they attach great importance to the idea they project of themselves. and for them it all starts with being impeccable.
6. They talk more than they listen
The difference in this sense of such a person with respect to another who is not, does not lie in the fact that they are people of great verbosity, since there can be very talkative people who are not narcissistic at all.
The point is that they talk about themselves in a way that makes it seem as if the world revolves around them, with a more or less disguised arrogance around them, but trying to express their superiority and enjoying listening to themselves.
And on the other hand, because they do not attach the same importance to what other people have to say.
7. They consider themselves the navel of the world
It is usually very curious the way in which they contemplate reality, because something that is very characteristic of narcissistic people is to believe that everything revolves around them and that others must also believe so.
They are not capable of empathizing with those they deal with on a regular basis.They are not able to empathize with those they deal with on a regular basis, since they only see their own vision of things as valid and unique. And as if that were not enough, it is also common for them to belittle others in order to stand out.
8. They depend too much on external recognition
Although they do not give the impression of having a low self-concept, the truth is that deep down they are people full of personal insecurities, which is why they try so hard to convince themselves otherwise and come to feel superior to the rest.
But since their self-esteem is actually quite fragile, their mechanism to feed it and make it grow is by seeking flattery from the people they surround themselves with.They need to create a mirror that reflects back to them the image they like to transmit, even if it is feigned. Since without it, they feel empty.
9. Promiscuous seducers. Unfaithful in the stable
In matters of couple, we had already commented that they usually go “from flower to flower” without achieving that the relations that they maintain come to mature and be lasting. But sometimes they get some of their conquests to settle down for a longer period of time with them and begin to stabilize.
But but the fidelity is short-lived, since they need to keep alive the high they get from that gives them that modus vivendi through which they manage to procure a renewed interest from people they seduce. Therefore, although they may have a long-term relationship with their partner, they tend to be unfaithful and quite promiscuous.
10. The vulnerable or covert narcissist: the other side of the same coin
There are several nuances that differentiate some narcissists from others, because after all, they are people, and not only are they different from each other, but they also have different circumstances from each other. But within the difference, in general, underlie traits that are very similar to each other. With one exception: vulnerable or covert narcissistic people.
In this case, it is more complicated to recognize him as a narcissistic person, because his attitude is less striking than usual. Their appearance is that of a shy and sensitive person, but they really hide under that affable façade feelings of rejection towards themselvesBut they really hide under that affable facade feelings of rejection towards themselves that lead them to a permanent unhappiness, defensive attitude and anxiety.
In the case of this type of people, they use a mask that represents a personality totally different from who is really under their skin. They want to be special people and use lies and emotional and use lies and emotional manipulation to obtain the attention and appreciation of others. and appreciation from others.
But the reality is that vulnerable narcissistic people are neither capable of love nor of feeling true empathy for the emotions of others. They only act out of concern for their own well-being, trying to avoid suffering what they fear the most: abandonment and rejection.