Happiness and true love starts with self-love.Or at least that’s what we hear all around us. The thing is that when we love ourselves unconditionally we are able to give ourselves true well-being, we make better choices about situations or people in our environment and we don’t accept anything less than what we deserve.
However, when we set ourselves to the task we often have no idea how to do it. we have no idea how to love ourselves, where to start, what to do differently, what to do differently.where to start, what to do differently, even to the point of saying “but I love myself! Here are some tips to get you started on the path of self-knowledge and unconditional love for ourselves.
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What does self-love mean?
So that you can understand it better, think about the way in which you love your partner; the attention you give him/her, how you do everything to give him/her well-being, the time you dedicate to him/her, how understanding and compassionate you are and how you accept him/her and love him/her in spite of everything.
This is what loving yourself is all about, to be able to love ourselves unconditionally and accept ourselves as we are.. Everything in your life improves when you love yourself because by loving yourself you know how to love others. Otherwise, our relationships become other things rather than love.
When we are able to love ourselves we are able to see ourselves as we are, to not judge ourselves and to be honest with ourselves. be honest with ourselvesWhen we love ourselves we are able to see what we like and what we don’t like, what we need and give ourselves well-being; when we love ourselves we are able to put ourselves first, but make no mistake, this does not make you a selfish person as some would say; when we love ourselves we stop criticizing ourselves and pretending, since we don’t need to be more or less.
So how do you start loving yourself?
Here are some ideas to start loving yourself that you can put into practice now, because self-love doesn’t wait.
1. Make peace with yourself
A very nice way to start on the road to loving yourself is by reconcile with who you are. Accept that we have mistreated ourselves and forgive ourselves for all the criticisms, all the judgments, all the times we wanted to be someone else or that we felt insufficient.
When you have made peace with yourself you are starting from scratch. You are facing a new beginning in which you are your best friend and your ally, with no more masks or pretenses. You will see that it feels like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders, you are free.
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2. Get to know yourself again
It is normal that between so many things that society wants us to be, advertising, the influence of others and the lack of and the lack of recognition from ourselves have caused us to have made us lose a little bit the idea of who we are. Well, getting to know ourselves again is the way to learn to love ourselves.
Think about the things you like, from the smallest to the biggest; if you want you can make a list of the things you like and the things that make you happy. things that make you happy. You may realize that there are things that no longer make the list because they are not really part of who you are but who you were expected to be. If necessary, you can also make a list of what you are not and what doesn’t make you happy.
When you are confused or feel your self-love is wobbling, read your list again, it will bring you back to you.
3. Live with your feet on the ground.
Now that you know yourself and what you like and what makes you happy, plan your life with real dreams and realistic, conscious and achievable goals; forget those goals that ultimately aim to change who you are and result in terrifying amounts of anxiety and frustration.
Live your present with optimismWalk your own path with your feet on the ground, do not generate false hopes or false goals. Think about who you are and where you are in a positive way and don’t fill yourself with anxiety about what you supposedly haven’t achieved. Embrace your reality even if sometimes you don’t like it, because that’s where the great lessons come from.
You must live in the present with optimism.
4. Goodbye to masks
To love yourself is to present yourself to the world as you are. It’s true that the world can be scary sometimes, but it’s even scarier to lock yourself inside a mask (as well as unfair to the magnificent person you are). When you show yourself as you are, you shine!
Allow yourself to meet the world as it is, and let others see you being you and no one else. This is also a form of unconditional love of your own..
5. Listen to and respect yourself
No one else can know so clearly what you need more than you. Your body, your emotions, your mind, everything speaks to you constantly. Don’t turn off that voice, accept with love what you want, what you need and what you feel. Respect the time you give to yourself.Respect your dreams and your aspirations, respect your body and respect your space.
6. Be compassionate
The best way to love yourself is to be compassionate. Compassion is the feeling that leads to unconditional love. When you are compassionate with yourself there is no more insults, judgments, blame, hatred or contempt because you understand your pain, sadness or suffering.
By being compassionate with yourself you are able to see that you have done everything possible and then, what we see as a mistake does not end up in guilt or a form of self-punishment because you do not judge yourself. Compassion is self-love that extends to others. It is unconditional love.
Now that you know where to start in loving yourself, you’re about to discover the best thing of all: you. So let’s all go for self-love.